Friday, January 15, 2010

Inspired Vision! It's all in your head

It's all in your head.


What you feel, how you are doing, what you answer when someone asks you, "Hey!  Howzit going??"  That stuff, is all in your head. 

The four-minute mile. It was a statistical impossibility, unthinkable that a man turn his own legs over fast enough to run a mile in four minutes. Until Roger Bannister started to run. During an attempt on British record, Bannister ran a 4:03. It was then he “realized that the four-minute mile was not out of reach.” (Wikipedia) A year later, one windy day, Bannister ran a mile in a history 3:59.4. It only took 46 days for rival John Landy to break the new record.


The first skyscraper. Before the building was built that dared to touch the sky, people didn’t trust elevator systems. Until William LeBaron Jenney proposed the use of steel beams in the skeleton of a building, rather than bricks. The result was the Home Insurance Building in Chicago, in 1885, ten stories high and 138 feet tall. In 2010, the Burj Khalifa towers over Dubai, 2717 feet and 160 floors.

A young woman cries and struggles over the thought of divorcing her husband of two years. No one will understand. People will judge her. She divorces. Happily she marries a second time. Inevitably she and her second husband fight. She is no longer afraid to go to the courthouse and file for divorce. She seriously considers it during each argument.

A man is waiting to interview for another position at an insurance company. He never thought his resume would look like this. He spent twenty years with the military before retiring and commencing his career in the private sector. He went into his first position imagining he would retire there. He did not retain that job. He found another, and then another. Now, he can’t imagine working anywhere for longer than 18 months.

Remember, vision is the ability to see your world, a strange and mystical combination of your heart’s eye and the world outside of you. Outside is what has already happened. It’s the record that hasn’t been broken. It’s the relationships you have already had or what you can see of others’ relationships. But the inside, where the core of the first Inspired Mind Guideline is based on your inner eye. Your intuition. Your sixth sense. The hairs standing up on the back of your neck.

Most important, my friend, is for you to know that there is nothing wrong with you. You have been skillfully and collectively taught in absolutes, about the important difference between black and white. I don’t need to tell you which color to prefer. There is a “right” way to do everything. The proper place to write your name on your paper. Certainly not at the bottom! The right volume of your voice. Not too loud! The appropriate method of maintaining relationships. No hitting and no yelling!


These so called truths become the standard. You and I, we absorb them in the interest of survival and then travel into adulthood with this baggage. The voice of our surrounding drown out the bellows of our heart until the heart simply gives up, reduced to a mere whisper.

Packed in our luggage is an understanding that “things” are a certain way. Nothing new is under the sun. Even though it would be nice to do something brilliant, there just isn’t time, when responsibilities stand in the way. This is what we call reality. But the true reality is that it is all perceptions. I am not debating the existence of right and wrong. I am talking about the infinite possibilities for every situation.

How many of those possibilities you can actually see. How many of those possibilities you think are a good idea. How many of those possibilities scare you. How many of those possibilities excited you.

It’s all in your head.

Think about it today, as you meander through your minutes, so sure of what you know.  Take a second and consult yourself.  What does your heart tell you?  Are you meant to break the record?  Can you see steel beams among the bricks?  Believe in your perspective!  Pursue the possibilties laid out for you.  Do you want love?  Consider someone who isn't "good on paper."  How about a different career?  Investigate others' jobs, check out schools, peruse the blogs.  Want to move?  Go there and imagine yourself in that place.  Figure out how much it would cost to move. 

Just don't be afraid to check it out.  It's all in your head.

Monday, January 11, 2010

Peace at all Costs?




Peace at all Costs?

What's your goal?  Do you want everything to be straight, narrow, focused, without turbulence?  Peace at all costs?

I had a fight with my husband this weekend.  Nothing spectacular, a top three subject of discord among couples, about money.  We love each other, this man and I; there is a passion we have that is hard to describe and impossible to explain.  Our personalities so different, our sunny days are downright inspiring.  The dark days are equally scary.

So it's no surprise that I avoid potential battles.  I'm admittedly intense, but kind of happy-go-lucky.  I prefer the decadent lunch meetings, networking parties, silly movies, the satisfaction of personal connection.  He is the opposite, his eyes always flickering and scanning as he thinks about how to protect us. It's a military trait, learned from 20 years of processing every possible risk.  The loss of life his deterrant. 

We have a dance then, my cheerful nature always desiring more fun, a modern day Mary Poppins, breaking the rules and sweetly deferring.  He feels the weight of whatever is on the horizon, trips to make, finances to change, children to raise.  Secretly I do think about these things.  I try to anticipate what is needed, paying bills, buying the groceries, cleaning the clothes while he is away.  But the truth is I don't like to face these things.   He makes me face them.

We finally talked, he expressed his feelings that are often overlooked.  I cried mainly from the stress of finally having to deal with what I always avoid.  Nothing pretty or skillful about our encounter.  Some things remain unresolved.  Other items can be checked off. 

It's not a popular thing, to fight with the elements of life.  We are told not to take it personally, that those nasty events must somehow be your fault.  We can feel the collective relief of those around us, so grateful that they are not us as we travel a difficult moment.  So we pretend.  We act as if everything is easier than it is.  We try not to want to much, to ask for too much, to paste on the smile like a fake mustache.  Of course everyone can tell the mustache is fake.  It sits askew as the irritation levels rise.

Much better to be unapologetic.  This is my life, a mix bag of fun and challenging and today, I must take off my gloves and get in the fight.  The life is not lessened because of the stress; it is enriched as I learn how much I want what I want, how much I love what I love, how much I fear what I fear.  It is the moment of noticing. 

In the end, I review my weekend. It was fun, fun except for the black mark of our fight. Is it too bad it wasn't consistent bliss. Fake, peace-at-all-costs bliss, but bliss nonetheless?


I don't think so.  I might feel a little sad today, the discord still gripping my thoughts.  But I am left with the commitment, the life with a person that cannot always be pretty and cheery.  This is when I know.  I will be him forever.  It was worth the fight.

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Saturday, January 2, 2010

The Yes/ No Diet!


The Yes/ No Diet!

New Year Resolutions.  The fresh and new January feeling is delicious.  I will do this.  I'm going to stop doing that.  A world of control, enjoyment, risk, purpose, all at your fingertips.  Just resolve to make the change. 

You know what happens next.  Every year, the same thing.  Resolutions come and resolutions go.  Only we remain, the same issues, the fears, the weird thing inside that roots in today.  Those roots are not there to trap you.  The roots are growth, stability, history, keeping the real you from being swept away by momentary desires.

Resolutions aren't necessary right now.  Resolutions tell you to want to be something that you are, to uproot you and replace you with a new and improved version.  You don't need to resolve to become something you are not.  You need to prune, not uproot! 

Look at the branches of your life.  Do you need to get rid of a branch?  You can!  Maybe there is another limb that is out of control.  Take control, and prune back.  Perhaps there is a dead branch that is sucking the energy out of the rest of your life.  Get rid of it.  Decide what you are going to say YES to, and what you will say NO to.  The progress of life is not entirely random.  The roots are planted with the hope that a beautiful and balanced tree will come into existence.  There are choices that can be made. 

Throw away your resolutions!  Think about what the last day of 2010 looks like.  What are you doing?  How dependable are your relationships?  What did you accomplish?  Now work backwards and plan on pruning. 

Put yourself on a "yes" or "no" diet. 

Maybe you are like me and you need to learn to say no.  Don't do everything!  Don't do things to make everyone happy, do things that work for your roots, for your future.  Do the right things, the things that will get you to the end of the year happy, fulfilled and proud.  Or, you might need to force yourself to say yes.  Say yes to unexpected situations.  Say yes to your own success.  Say yes when you are afraid. 

Say yes, say no.  Just say what needs to be said with the big picture in mind.

What is your big picture? Where do you want to go?  Forget about resolutions.  Start pruning what you have.  Learn to say more yes', more no's and you will find 2010 to be an amazing journey.  And a year from now, as you stand in the forefront of 2011, a new world will open to you.

If you enjoyed this blog, please utilize the other resources at http://www.neadinspiration.com/ and listen to Liz's radio show at http://www.desmoineslocallive.com/ called "Skywalk Talk," from 11:00-12:30 cst, M-F. Liz Nead is committed to helping you succeed!